Way too often we choose behaviours to harm and hurt ourselves when we feel depressed.
Here are a few examples how you might be hurting yourself:
- Not sleeping enough.
- Locking yourself indoors and being inactive.
- Avoiding stimulation, excitement, adventures and experiences.
- Suppressing and/or repressing your emotions.
- Allowing your moods to be in charge.
- Letting negative thoughts run freely in your mind.
- Not feeding yourself properly and adequately.
- Avoiding all social contacts, connections and situations.
- Avoiding planning and making decisions.
- Finding excuses, bailing out of and/or betraying your plans and ideas.
- Handing your recovery to others, giving up on yourself.
- Succumbing to substance abuse, becoming dependent on it. Choosing short-term relief over long-term recovery.
- Pushing your loved ones, nearest and dearest, away.
Some of you might exclaim: ’Kat, but isn’t this how depression manifests itself?’
I would disagree. If we settle for believing that these behaviours are the symptoms of depression, and we are just victims of it, then, perhaps, recovery will be out of our reach.
We choose our actions, depressed or not.
I remember when I was depressed, I chose certain behaviours to hurt myself. For example, I routinely unplugged my telephone, so that no one was able to reach me. Every time I did it, I felt awful, as I knew that I was cutting myself further away from social contact and help.
I also knew that I could have chosen to leave the phone plugged in, answer it if it rang, or even contact others myself. Instead, for a long time, I chose to behave in this dysfunctional way: allowing myself to hurt myself and establish a strong habit that actively propagated my vicious circle of despair.
While some self-hurting behaviours are made consciously, very often we are totally unaware of them.
How do you hurt yourself? Are you aware?
Awareness brings healing! Awareness allows us to assess what we are doing wrong, get in charge of our lives and start implementing changes that support our new selves.
Becoming aware is not easy!
Making choices in favour of self-supportive behaviours is not easy!
Doing it alone is not easy!
I encourage you to begin building your recovery team to support your journey out of depression!
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Love, light and healing!
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