You have been depressed for so long that you are sick and tired of being depressed. You want your life back! You desire to feel happy, confident, successful, valued, connected, interested and interesting. ‘If only I can break the cycle of this depression and set myself free to LIVE the rest of my life!’
The truth is: it’s hard to break free from depression. It’s almost impossible to talk yourself out of it (Would be nice to hear from people who succeeded this way!) It’s also unlikely that a person, who has been crippled by depression, would find strength, discipline and motivation to do and act differently from one particular moment forward.
Why is that?
I believe that when you try to leave your depression behind you are dealing not just with depression itself but the whole gang she belongs to. This gang is very strong and powerful! When you face it you are basically putting yourself against ‘the Mafia’. It disrespects and disregards your personal views completely and will not hesitate to take out your life.
‘Kat, what are you on about?’ you might ask. Let me go straight to the point. I am talking about your habits. The very habits that disempower and destroy your ability to heal and have a depression-free life.
Let me give you just a few examples. Do you continuously:
- Blame your depression for your lifestyle?
- Sabotage yourself like going to bed way too late without any plan for tomorrow?
- Find excuses to stay in the house all day every day?
- Say ‘No, thanks’ to every opportunity and relationship?
- Avoid responsibilities?
- Compare yourself to others?
- Reach out for alcohol/tablets whenever you are stressed?
It’s not too hard to identify your own ‘Mafia’ if you are honest with yourself. The hardest bit is to pick up just ONE habit and replace it with another habit that will be supporting your recovery. Leave the temptation to ‘transform yourself’ overnight. I am sure many of you tried it and know that it’s not working. After a couple of days you are likely to end up lower than you’ve started.
So, pick just one habit. For instance, you stay in the house all day every day. ‘I need to get out more’ thoughts are not going to help you change this habit. Being courageous, disciplined and actually going out every day for 4 weeks will do it for you!
Start by going out somewhere ‘safe’ if you’re dreading to engage in conversations with people at this stage of your recovery. Walk to a local shop to get a loaf of bread, or go to your nearest recycle centre to throw away a couple of plastic bottles. Step out of your comfort zone just a little bit. Then, each day expand your comfort zone a bit more if you feel ready for this challenge. At the very least don’t let it shrink back to its original state. Keep doing it for 28 days until going out no longer feels weird, impossible or unsafe.
Tiny but consistent change leads to great results. You can’t cure your depression today, but you CAN start eliminating one habit that stops you living the life you deserve. Within just one year you can have 12 new habits installed that could support you in breaking free from depression.
I encourage you to use ‘comments’ to announce your commitment to change one of your habits today. What will it be?
Stay strong, remain hopeful and seek inspiration!
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